Kay Marie Black (Brown), age 85 of Antlers, Oklahoma passed away on November 16, 2022 at her home. She was under hospice care for multiple stomach cancers.
Kay was born in Jumbo, Oklahoma on July 3, 1937 to Allie (Latham) and Kile Brown. Kay graduated from Moyers High School and completed secretarial training at Draughon’s business college in Oklahoma City. As soon as she turned 21, Kay joined the foreign service and served our country as a secretary for US AID. Kay’s first posting was in 1958 to Iran. This was an amazing adventure for a girl from Jumbo. On visits home to Push County, the neighbors would come over to see a slide show of her travels. Kay was posted in Iran, Indonesia, Ghana, Gabon, and The Philippines. Kay met her husband, John James Black, on a double date. They were not each other’s date that night but that soon changed. They married on March 23, 1968 in Manila, Philippines. Her son Stuart was born in the Philippines and after a move to Australia, her daughter Laura was born.
Through many moves overseas and in the US, Kay always had a dream to return to Push County and have land of her own. After the untimely death of her husband, Kay and her children moved back to Antlers in 1984.
Kay became an avid genealogist in 1974. It started with a need to know more about her people and where they came from. In these pre-Internet days, Kay wrote letters to names found in phone books and got information from microfilm, books, and newsletters. Kay quickly got involved with the Pushmataha County historical society and became known as the go to person in the area to help with family and local history. She helped people all over the country reconnect with their Push County roots.
Kay, with help from other local historians, compiled records and self-published books on the local cemeteries, and marriage records. They trampled around the county to find old family cemeteries and record information on tombstones.
Kay was a voracious reader of history as well as a variety of other subjects. Her favorite place to be was curled up with a good book, a pot of hot tea, and a fire in the woodstove. She loved watching PBS programs.
Kay was into lifelong learning before the rest of us heard that term. Around age 80, Kay started researching with a group of Choctaw Nation historians. This wonderful group traveled together on research trips to Arkansas, Louisiana, and other parts of Oklahoma tracking down Choctaw historical records. Kay also took Choctaw language classes.
Kay is survived by her son Stuart Black, daughter Laura Black-Law and three grandchildren. As well as two brothers, Gale Brown and Danny Brown. Also, numerous nieces, nephews, cousins, and friends.
Kay was preceded in death by her husband, parents, son-in-law (Bryan Law), and two brothers, (Rick Brown) and (Byron Brown).
A memorial service will be held at the Antlers Church of Christ on December 1, 2022 at 10:00 AM. A meal will be served after the service in the annex. A burial will take place on a later date at Jumbo Cemetery. Those wishing to honor her memory are encouraged to contribute to the Pushmataha County Historical Society, PO Box 285, Antlers, OK 74523 or PBS (OETA), 7403 N Kelley Ave, OKC, OK, 73111.